I did my first arbitration last week. I had a blast! I was able to question 6 witnesses and participate in the entire two-and-a-half-day event. I think this qualifies as quasi-"trial" experience. The lead partner was pleased with my work, as most of the other attorneys readily informed me. I also made it through the arbitration without anyone asking whether I was a "real lawyer." Always a plus.
I feel as though things are going well in my life. I suppose everyone goes through times when they feel like nothing is going their way, or they are experiencing so much change that nothing seems certain or dependable or likely to stabilize. With the exception of the tragic death of my good friend's brother a few weeks ago (a VERY big exception, I know), my life is beginning to feel "normal," stable, like the pendulum is swinging up again. I am getting more and more work all the time, which is a big confidence-booster. I have this very good "gut feeling" about my 27th year. I am content right where I'm at, and I sense that there are good things to come. I am hopeful -- hopeful that I'll be a good attorney, hopeful that I will experience new things (and not feel trapped), hopeful that once again I will have an innate sense of purpose and direction, rather than just trying to get through life.
The time has come for "right living." Not in the religious, legalistic, follow-all-the-rules, live-in-a-cave kind of way. In the adventuresome, experiential, living-on-the-edge, leap-of-faith kind of way. But that life still requires much discipline, self-improvement, patience, sacrifice, and caution. The "college years" are all about quantity -- not quality: How much life can you pack in to a few short years, even if you make some (not so little) mistakes along the way? But a mature, quality life comes not from "settling down," but from making wise, healthy decisions which lead to long-term happiness. It's not about fear, but about recognizing the benefit of the examined life. Passionate, fearless, daring, adventurous -- all things I always will be. But from now on, I'll put the quality before the quantity.
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